Do you ever feel like life is happening to you, and there isn't anything you can do about it?
Do you catch yourself blaming circumstances?
Or your idiot ex-spouse?
All the ignorant mistakes your parents made?
The way the system is set up to keep you down?
Do you find yourself looking back at your past and thinking, "Man if only that one thing didn't happen, life could have been so much better."
"Why me?" And so forth...
A mentality of victimhood can happen to the best of the best until we simply know better.
Once we recognize there is only one thing we can do to ameliorate circumstances out of our control, especially when it comes to injustice, trauma, shit storms and suffering, our outer world begins to shift.
The one thing that YOU DO have power over is your internal reaction and belief systems around the issue of concern.
To those of you do not know, the reason I am so big on empowerment is because I lived for so long as a victim. And my goal is to help people become empowered co-creators, manifesting like wizards.
Transformative Empowerment Rules:
Go within. Build my power. Out of nothing.
Real power is invisible.
You have the ability to turn your life around through cultivating inner, authentic power and awareness.
You have the power to decide what is, and what is not going to be-- your story.
The moment you can sit down and have tea with your demons, you've become neutral. When you become neutral, demons become flies.
Anytime you are playing the role of "VICTIM" there is a part of you playing the roles of "BULLY" and "RESCUER" as well. These archetypes are linked in a triangle.
Victimhood is a pattern. You can change that pattern. But you have to be willing to let go of what is familiar. Just because it's familiar doesn't mean it is healthy.
It might be scary, foreign or uncomfortable at first. But no evolution happens inside your comfort zone. Sometimes it's harder to handle a shift in power than it is to hold on to your pain.
Most of the time people are more afraid of who they could be in the light. Stepping into the light means being seen without the blanket of trauma and distraction covering you up. It means being seen beyond your human story. It means transparency. It means vulnerability.
Anytime you hate, lash out in anger, judge, or blame--- your energy field weakens and shrinks. You leak energy. You lose power.
When you treat yourself with respect, you command respect.
You set the tone for how you are to be treated. You train people. You teach them through your energy, countenance, speech and boundaries what is tolerable and allowed. When you empower yourself, others follow suit and assume you are one who is to be respected. I watched this happen over time. It was amazing. As I shifted my inner world, I saw my outer world shift.
You will not cease to see darkness in your outer world until you are brave enough to bring your own darkness to the light.
I believe wholeheartedly in the potential of your extraordinary self. That self, is what the world needs.